Woman to Woman

Well well well. Hasn't Ms Brick caused a stir?

I'm sure I'm one of millions writing a little blog about her but as the old insomnia strikes again I thought I'd have my say.

It's true beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I know for a fact that there are two people who think I am the most beautiful woman in the world - my Partner and my Mum. And as long as I have their approval, who cares? In fact I don't really care that much. It's much more important to me that they think I'm kind, intelligent, caring, witty, generous...I could go on. And why are these important? Because these are qualities to invest in. Beauty and youth are fleeting but even when I'm saggy and baggy hopefully I'll still be witty and intelligent.

Like many others I read through some of Samantha's old articles. Three things were apparent to me. 1. She's not a woman's woman. 2. She's very materialistic. 3. Her relationship seems very based on 'what's on the outside'.

Most of my friends are women, and none of them resemble the types that Samantha talks about. My friend's aren't bitchy and jealous, they're creative, funny, intelligent, successful, patient, graceful and all are there for and supportive of their other girlfriends. All of my friends have qualities that I admire and aspire to. I'm certainly not jealous of them.

In one article she defined success as having a posh house and a mercedes. I have a car and a house, neither is posh but I feel incredibly lucky and grateful to have them. Success, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, and success to me is happiness. I'm not rich but I don't have to worry about bills, I have food, shelter, a good relationship and loving and healthy family and friends. To be able to say this give me a warm feeling around my heart, this makes me happy, and that I would say makes me a success.

In another article she tells how her husband will leave her if she gets fat. I'm a lot fatter than when I first got with Baz. This is partly age, partly contenment and mostly eating takeaway pizza whilst cuddling on the sofa. And the best thing? Neither he or I care one iota. Don't get my wrong, I'm not gonna be 'Supersize vs Superskinny' material anytime soon but we accept and love each other no matter what our shape. Our relationship is more than looks. We make each other laugh. After 10 years we're still interested in what the other has to say. And as I said before this'll really be important when it all starts sagging and bagging!

I feel sorry for Samantha Brick. Not because she's beautiful but because of what she's missed out on - true female intimate friendship. And that's something truly beautiful.